Stress, anxiety, and distractions can lead to less satisfying sex. Leave the stress of the job at work, and minimize your anxiety about your performance. ”If we can quiet our monkey minds, put a stop to that ceaseless inner-chatter, we can open ourselves up to ”better sex,” says.
She recommends that men adopt a mantra: FOPS, or Focus on Pleasureable Sensations. ”There are techquines ranging from eye-gazing to message and synchronized breathing that help keep you in the moment, ” Britton says. ”Great sex” happens in the present. It doesn’t happen in the future, like worrying about how quickly you are going to come.”