Gifts for him
A friend of mine warned us that if we weren’t going to buy her a gift for her birthday that was really suitable for her, we should buy nothing.
This was because her lover had received as a gift an unstyled dress that she would never wear again.
“If you’re going to buy something for the sake of it, it’s better not to buy anything, even a bunch of wildflowers would be nicer because there’s a lot of crap at home from my friends or my girlfriend or even my mom that I can’t throw away but also never use…”
His lover saw his words as a crowd, but in fact, what they said is not a lie…
For example, the wife of a friend of mine gave him the same necklace two years in a row.
Is it insanity? Is it carelessness? Is it thoughtlessness? Now you say it.
I went to London with another friend.
On the way back, he realized that he forgot to buy a present for his wife, and bought him a rather expensive wallet from the airport. When I told him that it wasn’t a better idea, he didn’t listen. He thought his wife liked this brand very much.
But when he got home and gave the gift, his wife threw the box at his head. The reason, of course, was that he thought of it at the last moment when he was going somewhere on a week’s vacation and returning to his wife without even a magnet.
We men are not very successful in these matters.
To be frank, it is almost impossible for us to achieve the success of women in gifts.
There are people who make surprises for their lover in their youth, think of strange gifts, but generally, men are unsuccessful in this regard.
We do not have the habit of following special days in the first place.
Every birthday I get a card or a text from my girlfriends who live on the other side of the world and haven’t seen them in almost a millennium. Few of the men I know remember.
Even if you watch boys and girls, the situation is clear.
A little girl cuts out papers for her mother’s birthday, paints them, writes on them, and sticks bright stars on them. The boy buys something like a sweater, scarf, as his father reminds him. Or let’s say his father takes it and makes him give it to him.
This situation does not change among themselves, the gifts of girls are always more elaborate. Others are usually things like kuu toys, lego cars, on which no cards are written.
The strange thing is that women
We can’t understand his incredible sensitivity even after years.
Maybe you won’t believe the story I’m about to tell you, but it’s true. A friend of ours who has been married for 20 years bought his wife the car she wanted on her wedding anniversary. He invited us all to the house so that we could celebrate this gesture together… But his wife, who saw the car in front of the door, did not react as we expected. Because the very expensive car was not the color he wanted.
Although we thought of it as being spoiled, it was actually like passing on a black sweater to a woman who doesn’t wear black after 20 years.
So it was a more important detail than it was very expensive.
Of course, there are other examples of this as well. For example, another friend’s girlfriend caused a stir when she received a gift that was much simpler than she expected. But the problem there was not the expectation of expensive gifts as my friend thought, but the fact that a very precious gift was bought for his daughter from his ex-wife 1-2 days ago.
Gift İdeas
For example, my mother writes me a letter instead of buying a present for my birthday. He tells about his feelings and thoughts about me. Each time he manages to write something else.
As a matter of fact, the gift received for women should be complemented with an emotion. Even the most expensive gift by itself doesn’t make enough sense.
I think the gift that touched my mother the most was finding a very old photo taken with my late father, enlarging it, framing it, and taking it to her. That photo still stands in the corner. In addition, I do not know whether he used the numerous scarves, cardigans, sweaters that I bought before or not.
There are those who think differently about gifts.
A friend of mine said during the speech I mentioned at the beginning of the article that he was in favor of useful gifts. He said that he liked to buy a perfume that he always uses when buying a gift for someone.
Only men are full sacks in this regard.
I know a lot of guys who buy a deep fryer for a birthday, a steam iron for an anniversary, a food processor for Valentine’s Day and drive their wife crazy.
In fact, there are many people who bring useless electronic devices to the woman because they have their own interests.
But, of course, there are also those who like surprises, who want to buy something different whether they use it or not.
We have experts on this subject. A girlfriend’s gifts were legendary. They would bring the things that would interest almost everyone, and they would surprise everyone.
On the other hand, an assertive boyfriend, for example, would get a discount in a store, buy 10 different colored and patterned scarves, have them boxed, and then choose one according to whose birthday it was.
The gift business has its subtleties. For example, when buying a gift for someone according to your own taste? Some people say, “I buy it according to my own pleasure because I give the gift, I want it to be remembered”. Others choose the gift by thinking about what the person to whom the gift will be bought likes.
If you ask me, most importantly, when buying a gift for someone you care about, it’s best to buy something that they can’t buy, can’t find, something we didn’t think of… The financial value of it doesn’t matter at all. If you have never received a gift, even a nice card with your feelings about it is enough.
At least I like such gifts.
