Why don’t women marry men they have fun with and have a great time with, but first of all, men they trust financially and morally? I’m sure you’ve all thought about it, and some of you even stopped yourself while you were thinking about it and said, “No, it’s not like that”.
Is it just because of your father figure? Or your coding? Or is it everyone’s search for an ideal father for their child? All could be. Neither. But there is a reality that the society in general lives, and that is the search for the “ideal wife” that everyone dreams of, some find, some are still looking for, some think they have found, but say that this is not the case and look for a new one.
This concept, which can be expressed in different ways according to everyone, is the basis of this situation, which is not even mentioned when it is asked to “describe the man you want to me” or is simply passed over with the word “trust”. ”It’s just your will.
What are the first questions we ask or are asked when we meet someone who comes to the table by chance while chatting with friends? Have you ever thought? In our system of attributing meaning to people and labeling ourselves, our indispensable questions are what the other person does and where they live. Then his age, environment, marital status etc. These are indispensable questions in male-to-female or male-to-man conversations. So we’re still in a friend chat. We haven’t even come to the ideal wife. Most of us want to see people who have status, who are successful in their profession, who are well-educated and who develop themselves. We are in search of an “ideal partner” without leaving the environment we have established with those who pass through the system, if possible. In fact, it reaches such points that when I have a child, I will send it to such and such school. Because the children of such and such group can go as far as studying there. I’m sure you’ve come across this or many similar examples in your environment. But the important thing is to be able to answer this question. If you have such exemplary conversations, are you one of them?
It is not possible for a person who has found out who he is, what he really wants and why he came to this world to be able to contain these labels, even the concept of an ideal wife, in his repertoire.
A person who lives on the path to happiness lives every moment with pleasure, abundance and fertility, being useful, developing and enjoying. He knows that if the world is filmed, there is no way to give himself even for a second. That’s why it can’t add much meaning to itself. A person who is happy with his existence, content with what life brings and takes, who does not stop wanting and trying to make it happen, but who knows that everything has reasons to happen or not, who knows that happiness is a road and that it can develop if he turns the roughness of that road into an opportunity, does not linger with these concepts.
Being able to stand on one’s own and live without relying on anyone is just “confidence in yourself”. Being with someone is not creating a shelter for such people, but sharing their feelings and being happy with each other. With love and affection, think about whether you love just because he is “he”.
Would you still love her if she didn’t have what she has but her virtues?
