An action that takes place like an unwritten agreement between women and women. A moment when he claims that men will surely understand the fake orgasm. How about speaking out loud about our agenda behind closed doors?
What women want? What do men understand? So how much do men know about imitation of orgasm? If the subject is female orgasm, we can easily say that the answer is no. Because if the answer was yes, there would be no imitation of orgasm anywhere in the world right now. In this regard, we will focus on two different questions. We’re brainstorming why women fake orgasm and how men don’t notice it. It’s time to play our cards face up!
Sex is just one of the most enjoyable ways to reach orgasm. We try to live this miraculous moment by going through many grueling processes for the satisfaction that is finally reached. But sometimes, things don’t go exactly the way we want and one side is having an orgasm while the other side is quiet. At this point, an innocent acting comes into play and a problem disappears (if you see it as a problem, of course). However, this was never a problem. In fact, imitating orgasm is even interpreted as an anti-feminist act. Because women prioritize the pleasure of their partner by putting their own pleasures in the background. You see, this is a very common move and you are not alone. The lonely ones are men who have not been able to understand the difference between real and fake orgasms in their previous experiences. You know them very well, don’t you?
One of the most successful examples of the romantic comedy genre, ”When Harry Met Sally…” movie contains an important example of orgasm with Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal. Meg Ryan’s Sally and Billy Crystal’s Harry have a candid conversation about sex in a restaurant. Harry claims, of course, that he will certainly understand the fake orgasm that, like his fellows, has had their partners satisfied in their past experiences. Sally, on top of that, was showing the failure of Harry and his fellow men in a flashy orgasm imitation in the crowded restaurant. Of course, this is not the only example. The main character of the popular television series Seinfield, Jerry, argued that women appreciate the effort made by men during sex. But his ex and new friend, Elaine, announced that he was faking an orgasm when he was with Jerry, and Jerry’s imagination was shattered. We witnessed that Chandler was on the news when Monica of the legendary television series Friends told Chandler what she would do to satisfy her partner. Dr. William Masters, who investigated a female orgasm in the 2013 production of masters of Sex, based on a true story, was surprised by an orgasm he witnessed. Doctor, why are you so surprised?
Women Complex Men Automatic
Many women around the world have sexually pleasurable relationships, even if they don’t end up with orgasm. According to a study conducted in the United States in 2010, 50% of women fake an orgasm. The actual orgasm rates were clearly stated in a study conducted in 2017. During intercourse, men reach orgasm at a rate of 95 percent, and women at a rate of 65 percent. As we can understand from here, while men reach satisfaction more easily, the process is much more complicated for women. “Couples who reach satisfaction in sexuality become more connected and closer to each other. While this is the case, people who have not been able to find happiness in their sexual world also have difficulty in solving the problems they experience in other areas of life. So what are we going through in our relationships?
”Even if we go…”
A white-collar woman who has been in a romantic relationship for many years says she sees nothing wrong with impersonating her partner in the bedroom. The reason for this is to make your partner feel good, successful and powerful. While She performs this imitation with sound and vibration, respectively, she argues that the fake and the real could not be distinguished until now. Another example, we see that an artist woman who interprets herself as a true love person is among those who resort to imitation very often. Our second example says that the partner resorts to this imitation in order to achieve satisfaction and go to sleep as soon as possible. Because according to him, the effort shown should be appreciated, but if it doesn’t work, it doesn’t make much sense to force it. But she adds that she can only display it to a partner she cares about. Our last example, a young conservative, preferred to fake an orgasm in the position his partner liked. In this way, the man reaches satisfaction more quickly and the night ends happily. What about the woman? As can be understood from these examples, sex still continues in a male-dominated manner. Women often prioritize their partner’s pleasure over their own happiness. Of course, they do not give up keeping their real orgasm rights aside.
When women share their sexual desires and desires with their partners, they may have an unrealistic way of thinking that they will be misunderstood. The idea that “if I tell my wife my sexual desires, she will misjudge me” negatively affects the sexual world of couples. “Another important factor in the woman choosing to imitate orgasm is that she does not know her own body well enough. The vast majority of women do not have appropriate information about their sexual organs. The woman who does not know herself cannot convey this to her partner, as she cannot know how to act for her own orgasm during sex.
“I can recognize the imitation from 10 meters!”
Men like Harry, Jerry, Chandler, Ahmet or Mehmet continue to pontificate professionally on the difference between fake and real orgasms. Men are often of the opinion that imitating orgasm is only sound and tremors or convulsions cannot be imitated. One of the reasons for this is that they don’t know the other person enough and of course they can’t communicate enough. If men and women manage to talk in detail about their bedrooms, they will learn about each other’s pleasure points on both sides. Besides, in societies like ours, where the taboo on sexuality has not been broken yet, we cannot say that both sides know each other’s bodies very well. Or we still haven’t talked at length about the clitoris and the G spot, have we? Another reason is their performance-oriented approach to sexual relations. It often ends with a familiar scenario when the focus is on results and performance rather than exploring the female body. Finally, we can say meaningless self-confidence. If you see someone saying, “I can fake an orgasm from 10 meters away!”, you don’t even need to gasp. Quietly walk away and leave the friend in the fantasy world.
The imitation of orgasm can be seen as a kind of simulation of pleasure. According to the women whose opinions we have benefited from, the real orgasm is referenced while imitating. Nevertheless, we will have a few recommendations to end this interest in the fake while the real remains. Talk to your partner, don’t delay your own pleasure and get to know your body. Let’s appreciate the period when we are most open to communication in bilateral relations. Some women may also prefer auxiliary products or aloneness to experience orgasm. So many options, so many different channels… After all, at the end of the story, after all three moments experience the same miraculous feeling, what does the process matter? Wishing you real and extraordinary moments…
